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you I want to begin by telling you a very interesting story I have a daughter-in-law her name is mrs. Galindo Crone she's married to my son Avram and she's a teacher in the third grade in a school in Waterbury Connecticut now all of us know that the school begins in September and that's right around the time of Elul so she waited the first three days you know till she got to know the girl and then on the third day she said to the girls I want to show you something I'm going to take out my cell phone now usually a teacher does not take out a cell phone in class and she said but I want to show

you something well I'm going to put it on speaker so that everybody can hear the call that I am about to make and she put the phone on the desk as you dial the White House and the operator says this is the White House can I help you and my daughter in law says I am a teacher and we are here with 30 girls in Waterbury Connecticut and abed Yaakov and we would like to speak to President Obama so the operator says you can't speak to President Obama he's very busy so she says but we have 30 citizens of the United States isn't she the president of the citizens of the United States we would like to

speak to him well he's very busy I could give him a message maybee she says well what happens if we would write him a letter do you think that he would read the letter so the operator says well President Obama gets 10,000 letters a day and we show him ten of the letters so my daughter with all the children listening says so what you're telling me is that we have citizens here of the United States who cannot speak to their president and even if they write a letter most likely the president is not even going to get to read it is that true she says yeah well he's very very busy I can't promise

that he'll get your message or your letter she said okay thank you for your time and she hung up the phone as she asked the girls to go back to their seats and she said to all the girls I know someone who's busier than President Obama you see President Obama is only president over 370 million people in the United States but I know someone who takes care of always seven billion people in the world and you know something he's always available anytime you want to speak to him he's available you open your see dude and you start talking and he'll listen daytime nighttime Shabat middle of the week

he's never too busy to listen to any Jewish prayer anytime now the girls were so taken by this it was such a genius idea how she presented this idea I didn't even know she did this a few days later in the month of Elul last LOI was in Toronto and a man comes over to me and he says where I crawled I want you to know my granddaughter is in your daughter almost class in waterbury it's almost a week since she did that and the girls are still talking about it what an impression she made on the children that Hashem is always available and that's the thing that I think that we have to know first and

foremost tonight no matter what we have done in our lives no matter what we watched and no matter what we said and no matter where we went Hashem door is always open we can always ask them for forgiveness we could always ask Hashem for favors Hashem is there for us is our Father and all of you that our fathers and grandfathers and and grandmothers know that when your child talks you listen you don't always say yes Hashem also also always doesn't always say yes but he listens and that's the thing that we have to learn tonight tonight we want to find out what can we do that Hashem should answer

our prayers as we said of course we're praying and we say to him for Adina bath Aviva but in general every day we are asking our sin for part NASA we ask for the fois we ask for wisdom do you know that every morning if I have to give a speech later that afternoon or at night I pray fashion I talk on a la dumb duck assume you give wisdom god help me I should say the right thing I should say something that's going to make an impression I should express myself properly if you have a business meeting and you want somebody to be impressed with you to give you the job to give you the rain to give

you the commission then you pray and after framing Lee odham does you pray that a shrimp should give you the right words and you should have the right wisdom to say the right thing so what can we do to improve that Hashem is going to listen to us and I'll tell you something that the Comets claim says that it's so remarkable that every single one of us every man woman and child here tonight in Great Neck and every one of us that's going to be watching this whether it's tour anytime that come and it's going to go all over the world by tomorrow every one of us can change in this thing and I'll

give you an example the example that the cover time uses he said imagine that some builder has built a beautiful community right along a beachfront and the water is crystal clear and what happens now the people they want to drink water say they've got to get pipes but what happens if the pipes in these new homes to the fresh water of the river or the ocean whatever it is is corroded and filthy and dirty so even if the water is clean and even if the houses are new if the pipes are corroded then the water is going to be spoiled then the people are going to get sick from drinking that water so

the cover time says the Torah is holy every word of Torah that we learn whether it's homage Gemara hahaha makes no difference everywhere up to Fela that we say is so holy we take those holy words and every time we say them we build Mollison we build angels but what is the pipe the pipe is our mouth the words of the Sidora holy the words in the whole mantra holy we want them to fit such a mind where is the pipe our mouth now imagine if somebody tells a joke that's off-color or imagine somebody says something to his wife or wife says something to his heart to her husband that's very negative

that's nasty that mouth is corroded if somebody says Lashon Hara well somebody makes fun of a child or makes fun of somebody that has a handicap that pipe is corroded to matter what words of food are you are learning no matter what words of the Fela you are saying they are corroded by the time they get awesome so tonight every single one of us must think about what are we going to do to change that our pipes where the water of Tehran the water after fuel I'll come through to go up - then it's going to be clean we have to stop lying we have to stop exaggerating we have to stop saying negative

things about other people and it's very easy to say negative things especially when you're in a group of people and everybody's criticizing whether they criticize the rabbi or the president of the show or somebody in the community so you join everybody wants to be part of the group you want to be part of the pack but once you say something negative with your mouth just think of that it's such a beautiful Michelle from The Hobbit I am the pipes are corroded so no matter what the ocean could be perfect clear water but if it's going through bad pipes it's not going to accomplish so the next time

you want to tell an off-color joke or the next time you want to lies or the next time you want to criticize somebody hold back hold back that's cleansing spiritually the pipes and then Oh then the tiller goes up impurity then action sees off this is happening these are words of holiness this I can listen to this I want to agree to what the person wants so when we want that we beg for the first level or we beg for pranitha or we beg for the shedule and we are using clear water through Quinn pipes of course there's a chance that it's going to be answered more it's obvious you don't need to call

it's time to tell us that but that's what he's telling us that's the first thing the second thing he says is something so interesting he brings a camera the camera is in Chinese cafe on McVeigh's that's 25 V in your art scroll Gomorrah and it says like this the Gemara tells us there was a time in editor isla l when there was no rain and they went to Reverend Eliezer and they said Rebbe please pray for rain because if it doesn't rain right away the crops won't grow and there'll be starvation and people will starve so rabbul izza got up and prayed and it didn't help it still didn't rain so then

they went to Rabbi Akiva and they said already please ready please Rhett Dobbin for us that it should rain because if it doesn't rain the crops won't grow and we'll starve sir we have Kiva prayed and it did rain so the Gemara says everybody started saying oh you see rocky was a bigot Sadiq they're never like that river less afraid and it didn't rain rebbi akiva prayed and it did rain so you see Rama he was the biggest Sadiq so a voice came from shamayim a Bosco yacht sub bass coil a voice came out from Shania and listened to what the voice said live Asia's there Gautama Zedd not because herby

Akiva was a bigot Sadiq then revaruraa be a lesser but there's another reason why the VRT was answer was is Trillo was answered he said McNay Shazam Marvel Almeida self rebbi akiva had that characteristic that he could look away if somebody heard it many of us if somebody says something negative about us we whip back we answer back we get angry rebbi akiva if you said something about his family he looked or I didn't get angry didn't respond somebody who looks away Hashem says oh look at that somebody did something bad to him and he looks away I shan't says you know I'm gonna do the same thing

nobody's perfect everybody's got sins none of us are perfect but we want a Shem to look away so you learn how to look away if somebody hurts you then Hashem will look away when you pray and he'll say okay listen you asked me for something I know you didn't do everything right but I look away from that I'll answer you now I just want to explain something very important that my rebbe reb David Cohen from Brooklyn always tells me when I say this coming up we're not talking if somebody owes you money if somebody owes you money you have every right to get it back that's not what the camera is

talking about somebody cheated you in business you have every right to go after them and get the money when that is not mafia Tommy you're not expected to look away when somebody causes your financial loss we're talking about emotional pain somebody says so I didn't want to say out of my mouth what somebody would say about you whatever you know what people could say and you don't answer back you're ready to look away then Hashem says you know Ravi Activa did that and it's not that rebbi akiva was a bigot ami saw some terrible letter but he had that be done that's what the Comets crime tells

us if a person has that meda then you look away when somebody hurts you well when we do a sin it hurts us them but he's ready to look away if we look away so that's the second thing that we have to improve tonight the first thing we have to make sure that our mouth is pure that the pipes through which the Torah and the to fill are goes through are pure and then it will go to show Miami then we'll get answered better and the second thing is that we have to be able to learn to look away now I brought all of you every man woman and child I brought you some presents tonight and I'm going to

explain to you the first one and I want to tell you how it happened that this present came to be many of us certainly remember many of us certainly remember two years ago when those three boys Naftali Gilad and Aiyaa were kidnapped and for 18 days nobody knew where they were I always wondered Israeli detectives are so brilliant how would the world could be for 18 days they didn't know where they were why did I shall make it that for 18 days the whole world especially the jewel Jewish world was in such a suspense what happened with Naphtali Gila then I yell and I can just tell you during those

18 days I was in Switzerland I will never forget as long as I live Friday night in Switzerland I was in a shul of Kassadin everybody had a black hat with a beard and a long coat and a guard though I was the only one that looked like me and that right before Kabbalat Shabbat the rabbi said now we're going to say to heal him for the three boys and they said such key limb and I tell you the truth it was so powerful you would think that they were praying for their own children I started crying I'll tell you the truth I started crying you know why because I was thinking that these three boys they

want her custody she avoids they had to pass through God they lived in areas where the Hasidim normally don't live they went to schools where the Hasidim don't usually send their children but it made no difference they were Jews they were our brothers and our sisters we're all together in this and if that's the case that's why I believe I shall made it for 18 days we didn't know because they were such an doctors there was such a unity when we prayed for each other when every type of Jew paid for those three boys that's why in my humble opinion if you think about it mathematically how in the

world is it humanly possible mathematically it makes no sense how could Hamas Hamas Hamas Vietnam have sent thousands thousands of rockets now one rocket exploded a show not one rocket exploded a house how in the world is that humanly possible you know why in my opinion because kalau israel at such as do it had such unity but that was the source god protected us in that way that's why we come tonight to join in unity to love each other and care for each other because when we love each other and care for each other God takes care of us that's why there was no bombs that exploded those Rockets

didn't explode schools kids were in school I was in there to Cheryl during that time but for Hashem Hashem protected because there was unity now I want to tell you something that you mama SH have to fasten your seat belt as you hear this you will not believe what I'm about to tell you at the end of the 18 days when they found out that never those three were killed I know some buddy that went to Bremen a same avail to pay a Shiva call to mrs. Franco mrs. Franco is the mother of Naphtali an American woman very articulate very well-spoken so the person told me that she said that at the end when

she found out what happened with her son she had a partial nahama she had a partial consolation now I asked you how could anybody have a come what consolation could a person have who loses a child it's the worst thing in the world what consolation could she have had so somebody said to her mrs. Franco explain what are you talking about listen to what this holy woman said she said for 18 days I cried not knowing what happened to my son I knew that my son loved doing mitts vote and the Mitzvah that he loves to do more than any other Mitzvah was wearing just to fill in now I knew that there was

no way that those terrorists were him let him wear his to fill in during captivity but then when I found out that he was killed the first day I said Baruch Hashem at least my son didn't have to go one day in his life without wearing to fill in could you imagine the holiness of a lady to say that that that's how she had consolation that her son did not have to go one day without hearing swearing to villain I tell you the truth when I heard it I felt every single man every single man who is the villain has to do something special because of that and every woman who prays has to do something

because of that such a holy statement and I was thinking what can we do during our prayers that would help bring us closer to Hashem was a condition was not totally and I thought that the idea should be from now on when we pray we shut not vibrate shut the cellphones because everybody who is praying and has his phone on vibrate is waiting to see if he got an ad from Staples always waiting to see if somebody wants to be connected on LinkedIn and me and two other fellas we made up a statement disconnect to reach elect disconnect your phone to reconnect them so wherever I went I spoke about it

and then one afternoon I get in the mail something a young fellow look at this look at this beautiful post they made for me this connect to reconnect now this is a seed or that's a fart but it works what else can I also believe me this connect to reconnect so you know what I did I made thousands and I'm going to give each of you labels of this type of poster put it on your refrigerator if you're down at home as a woman does or put it in your seat dude put it in your stand there take as many as you want wherever you pray take one of these these little ones here this connect to reconnect put it

stick it in your seed order not only for a dinner bus vivre for yourself if the women here would know how their men behave in synagogue with a cell phone they would be humiliated how many people do we see every day or say Shalom be removed and then what happens they open up the cell phone that's prank that's not trained that's terrible so the first thing we said we got to make sure that our mouth is clear the next time you want to lie the next time you want to say something painful remember the Torah that's a few lies going through these pipes we got to make sure that our pipes are clean the

second thing we got to remember we have to be able to look away if somebody says something negative to us and the third thing we have to remember from now on this connect to reach a neck everyone of the estate tonight give them out you have my permission make a thousand copies send it out wherever you want disconnect to reconnect then we can reconnect our champ and I'll tell you another thing which has nothing to do with this topic but just parenthetically you know what else you should shut your phones and I say this all parents when you're eating supper with your children that's when you

show your children you know something you are more important than that guy who's calling and they are more important is in anything more important than your child or your grandchild that you already suffer with then you spend 15 minutes a day with when it comes to suffering you shut the fall not on vibrate that's the third thing disconnect to reconnect I'll tell you another thing one of the things that the whole time writes about and he talks about doing cresset and I brought each of you a gift for that as well the comet I am writes he tells us that we need a Shems hazard we need that Hashem

should do us favors every day he writes not one day he writes this in the safe of assassin not one day should go by that a man or a woman doesn't learn something certainly the men have hue of tumult or more than the women obviously but the women can listen today on Torah anytime that calm you have so many shoot him I have my own son l he has a Crone I'm so proud of him for Hashem he assured him for women about the kosher kitchen about your fashion battle has brought all these things women have to know is to know about the kosher kitchen yes you know Barbara holt when they eat food after no

battle for Shabbos but the men of course have to learn more I understand that but every single day a person should do a facet for someone else and I'll tell you something else I guarantee you here's a guarantee if you take this for a book tonight this is called a head challenge journal every one of you can take one tonight star writing down as I said you did for somebody else not a husband for a wife or wife or husband that you got to do if you know it's a good feel I'm talking about out of the house so people said to me would you be neither house don't you have to do custom at home yeah but

you don't become about president when you're nice to your wife or your wife's nice to your husband that you got to do if you want to keep your marriage straight right we're talking about outside the house carpool giving a loan calling a lady in a nursing home giving somebody a ride who can't walk home from shore during the week there's so many ways that you could do cresset and i'm telling you the posit tells us how gentle hug god your shadow if you do good for others you're going to see good stuffs gonna happen to you and you'll see your trailers are going to be answered and you're going to

be an elevated person because when you love are shams children Hashem is going to love you just like if anybody would love our children and did things for our children we would love them right so when you do have said to another Jew you're doing something flashy on his children I want to tell you a story that happened with me it's a little bit embarrassing to talk about but I want to tell it to you anyway because it's one of the greatest acts of sesor that you could possibly imagine what many of you don't realize is that when I was 21 my father passed away now I've had this supposed to do

many breathe out here and show and many in other shows in Great Neck and I appreciate every time that a family uses me I'm very grateful but I started being a mohel and very very difficult situation I'm the oldest of seven children my father unfortunately was sick he was a mohel and when we realized what was happening I had to leave school had to leave the issue ah and that's when he trained me I mean he was always training me but that's when I got my training and believe me when you're 21 and you got to support your mother and younger brothers and sisters it's not easy after my father would

passed away you know I would come into a house and a grandmother would take a look at me a 21 year old kid and she oh you're so young I would say well the baby is also young nothing you try to you know break the ice a little bit so of course it was not easy having people use me as a mohel when I was 21 so one day a man in our shul is name was mr. high in Israel he came over to me and he said here's an envelope for you and your mother I said what is this he said I know that you could use it I said we're not beggars we're not poor we don't need any money he said no this is not charity it's a

loan so I said so when do we have to pay it back he said I will never ask you for it whatever you want you could pay me back I said okay fine I got to ask my mother I wasn't married at the time I was still living at home I said to my mother mom mr. Israel gave us one and she said well we're not poor we don't need to stock up I said no my said it's a loan she said when do we have to pay it back he said I'll never asked us whenever we want okay we really did need the money and it was helpful was about $1,500 and this goes back to the year 1967 so now two years later I was 23 more people were

taking me I put together the money and I go to mr. Israel and I give him back the money and he says I'm not taking it I said this is you what are you talking about you're the one who told me it's a long I want to pay it back he said of course it's alone it's a but let me explain he said you remember many years ago when I went bankrupt that's what he was talking about now of course I remember the whole shore was going crazy he was a wealthy man overnight he lost everything he said a few except I went bankrupt there was another man in our neighborhood mr. Lowenstein who came over to me Moshe

Lewis II and he gave me money and I said to him I'm not poor he said no this is a loan so I said when do I pay it back he said I'll never ask you whenever you want you pay it back and a few years later I came back to mr. Lowenstein mr. Israel a telling me and I gave him the money he said I'm not taking it so I said to him what you said to me what do we get updated you said it's a loan he said yeah it's a loan and you have to pay but not me someday you're going to find another family that needs the money and you give them the money that's how you pay me back and when they come to pay you

you'll tell them the same thing I'm telling you they give it to another family and that's exactly what my mother and I did that's that's it that's not that when you're not thinking only about yourself and you take this book tonight and you challenge yourself you don't go to sleep at night until you did a favor for someone it could be even a small favor but it's a favor you show em that you care about another Jew then you're tough you love our answers then your Torah is pure then God sees all these are my children you know recently I heard something great and I think this is so beautiful

because it kind of gives us a perspective what life is all about you know most of us we get up in the morning and we have a cup of coffee most people get up and do that so there was a rabbi in Israel of breda men who spoke about it and he said what is the move on what is the depth of that that a Jew gets up in the morning it has a cup of coffee listen to what he said a person takes coffee beans very bitter he puts in sugar that's very sweet he takes hot water and cold milk and he mixes it all together the bitter the sweet the hot and the cold and what does he say shall call the epidural

everything is from our shell that's great the guy gets up in the morning and it has I said whatever you're dishing out to me been a sweetheart and I know it's from you now that's a great declaration of faith in the morning I'm sure none of us even thought about that when we were drinking coffee right what the point is it's a great lesson here and the question is what happens if we have something bitter or something we feel is too hot can we change things so I want to tell you a great great story and always remember this this is the story that happened many many years ago in the 1700s and

there was a table karim who had two children two boys ten year-old boy and a six year old boy and they were running away from a communistic type of country and every night on a boat at night late at night this boat would take people from this communist country where there was a terrible leader and try to get over the river to the other side and sneak into the other country there was freedom and many many people tried to get on the boat every night and one night this time with haha he has his two children and he's holding onto them for dear life and suddenly people start yelling and screaming

that the boat is breaking up there's too many people on the boat and that they're going to have to swim to shore now how in the world these little kids they don't know how to swim it certainly can't swim well they were about less than a quarter a mile away from the sand but how they going to make it there and the father listen to this the father has dinamic an awful awful decision that no one should ever have to bake and he says his children my dear children I don't know what to do there's no way that I can swim holding both of you the most that I can do is take one child and swim with the

other hand I can't hold both of you I don't know what to do and the father's crying and the little boy says daddy take the older boy he learns Farah he's in the yeshiva ready this I think you think him don't worry about me and the father kisses the healthy chalices how could I leave you go and the older boy says that II take the younger boy don't worry about me I can swim a little bit I can swim a little bit take the younger boy and the father gets out of the boat that's cracking up and he's holding both children and he decides that it's gonna drop the older child because maybe that all the

child will be able to survive because she'll be able to swim and as he's holding both of the kids and he begins to let go hope the older child the older child kneel daddy daddy don't let me go don't let me go he can't let him go kid I'll give you let go a child like that and he holds both kids and somehow he's able to manage that less than a quarter of a mile and he comes on to shore with both kids he plots on the sand and he collapses and when he gets up he sees both his kids and the little boy the older boy says daddy how could I say to you you saved my life you saved my life and the father

says I didn't save the life you saved your life it says me he says how that I saved my life you carried me he said no don't you understand when you cried out to me daddy don't drop me daddy don't drop me you gave me a strength and I never knew that I had I never thought that I had that strength for your prayers you're crying out to me gave me a strength that I never thought I had and that's how I was able to save you but it was you because you gave me that strength and you know something the Gemara tells us something so amazing the Gemara tells us if you pray to God and you see that you

didn't get answered you know what you should do pray again never give up and the Gemara tells us about sook that all of us know we say it in a role kaveri ela shem pray and hope to god exactly I met Rebecca becomes a Elijah a second time never give up and I take this to all the young girls that I will go fishing to him and I say this to all the young guys that are looking for jobs and I say this to all the couples that are looking to have children never ever give up that's what thinking what I was telling and that's why tonight even though that we know that Timo is going to be started for

dinner possibly the next week as the father told me this afternoon you never give up just because the child has came up doesn't mean that they can't survive and have a wonderful life we all know stories like that but we have to pray we have to be better we have to make sure that our mouths our pipes are clean we have to make sure that we're able to look away when others hurt us we have to make sure that we do have said every single day we have to make sure that we disconnect our phones to reconnect to Hashem and when we reconnect our sham then hopefully the three loads will be answered so how

we're going to change how we're going to change I'll tell you a great story and then one more story and that will close listen to this fabulous story and you know what I love about this story it's not only it's not only the story is so beautiful as you'll see in a second but a tower of hi I'm Kelly yeskey the god all had or the greatest Talmudic scholar today how he understood the story this story happened a couple years ago and it happened to a fellow let's call him Nachman and that one was a regular yeshiva boy in America he learned in a kollel for a few years then he went into business he

became very wealthy and he moved his family to Israel every few years he would come back to America and he would do business in New York and then sometimes he'd go down and visit his non-religious Israeli cousins in Miami not see a Java now not Ian's Ahava they left Israel because they were not religious dad no use for Israel they came to Miami and when their cousin came to them he couldn't eat in their home right because they weren't kosher so they would go to one of the kosher restaurants in Miami or else they would take out food and eat on plastic dishes of paper dishes and a couple of

years ago two years ago now when comes into the house and you know when you see a guy that his yarmulke sitting on top of his head you know like a triangle you know he just put it on five minutes ago sometimes we see like that you know at the Kotel and usually that's how it was you would come into Nazis also look like he just put on the yarmulke a few seconds before but now they all were to look comfortable look like he always wore it and then he looks around and he sees him Azusa on every door post and he says to him hey wow did I notice it change here he sees a safer on the table he says

boy you picked that up real fast yeah we became ballet juba we became religious he says well that's great then he hugged him he said if that happens he said I'll tell you how it happened he said you know a couple years ago my wife and I we were sitting I was late afternoon in Miami was very hot and we were sitting on the porch and we noticed our many well-dressed people and shirts and ties and they were all going down to the water now Miami somebody goes down to the beach and I've gone down you know with the shirt and the tie and I looked at my wife and I said oh my gosh it's Rosh Hashanah

these people are going to Tasha right he says I remember trash-talk as a child I hadn't gone in a long time he said I don't know what possessed me I wanted to my house I got my Cuba I put it on my head and I said you know something I'm gonna go with them and I'm following all these people and of course everybody's looking at me because I'm dressed so differently than everybody else we come down to the water everybody takes out them I was on in everybody's saying what they say etosha like a guy comes out to me says excuse me read Hebrew it's just do I really bro I'm Israeli of course I'm ready

bro because you want to say what they say he said I know what this is I remember as a kid - Leah yeah I will say it fine he said I was getting ready to go on a guy comes over to me he says excuse me sir did you his show for today he says today I haven't heard show for seven years he says you know my name is Moshe cats and he's thinking like who cares what your name is like you know I'm not your friend you're not my friend he says I'm the boss okay I vote sure I got a little show from my pocket would you like me to blow show you fur for you he says you guys shave in your pocket he says yeah I

can blow even a little chauffer he says wow that would be nice so he blows for him 30 Koloff everybody around like ever here showed fat passes they told me she's here right and he's blowing Schaefer and then finally he finishes and the guy says thank me says let me tell you don't forget my name is motion cat he's thinking like this guy's a nerd who cares who you are he says I just want to tell you I saw where you came from you don't live so far from the synagogue if you ever want to be in contact with anyone in Senegal you could call me my name is Moshe gasps or else the rabbi he comes home

he thinks the guy comes home as wife says no so how was everything she tells him he tells her you know they were praying and then you know they asked me if I could read Hebrew and I said of course I'm Israeli he said then this guy Moshe cats came over to me and he her for me she says why to lucious I feel he says Moshe chance she says fans who show you for you he says here was she says I don't believe it that's really his name yeah he told me three times she says you know my grandfather who died many years ago his name was Moshe cat and he was involved to kmb our stock in Europe there was a

big synagogue and very holy filling out my grandfather Moshe can see blues shuffle' for those people I can't believe that today a guy Moshe guess whose chauffeur for you well I couldn't get over they got the chills just like I am right now I was on a double story they couldn't believe it so for three days you know they're just talking about it finally they decided to go to the synagogue and they asked the rabbi and he's telling his cousin not when the rabbi was so wonderful he was so nice he was much like rabbi Bakshi he didn't say that but he say it was just so wonderful and so special and

he was the one who brought us to chew on well he was so happy he embraced him and he told everybody the story finally comes back to Israel and it goes through up Haim county s key and he says Rebbe I got to tell you this unbelievable story he says you believe it he tells them the whole story I told you sir remind says of course these things happen every day but you know we don't always understand them but they happen every day he says Rebbe I gotta ask you a question listen to this great question and listen to the answers even better than the question he says Rebbe I gotta ask you a question

if God wanted my relatives to become religious why didn't he send the Moshe cats ten years ago nice question right if God wanted that these people should be religious this concept emotion catch 10 years ago says reply of God is key God waits for someone to take the first step as soon as he put on his key bra and he said I'm going to toss that with then God said now I can send a bunch of cats what an answer what a great lesson for all of us we want to change tonight you can change take the first step do the first guess it be careful the next thing that comes out of your mouth when you want to

say something negative one step one small step and God says you know something you're taking the first step I'll send you budget cuts because I'm says your guy's name was your cat's call me right away you'll be in my next book okay but the point is you get the idea what I'm trying to tell you I just want to end with this fabulous story and also a great great lesson because we're talking about change tonight every one of us can change I feel real good but we can be better I don't like to come and tell people you know what's so bad well good if you think about where we came from we're great but

we could be better and it doesn't hurt to be better we feel more connected to each other we feel more connected touch them we feel more connected to Julia's of the inner Skype the yahoo that's what we got to do and we can all do it every one of us and we'll be better elevated people because of it so I just want to end with this thought I remember many years ago the first time that I was in Manchester in England and I was about to go in and give a speech for about 500 women and somebody came over to me and said you know something on your way you got to stop into a woman's house she never has

MS and she's paralyzed she's in a wheelchair she's asking that you come visit her for two minutes and I was thinking you know first of all how could you say no to a woman who's in a wheelchair so I said okay good I'm going but just for two minutes because there's a big that's waiting I come inside this 25 women in that room and they're all waiting for this woman mrs. watch out Roberta's coffee walks out to give a she osha brilliant woman but she wasn't yet in the room and then they open up the curtain between the living room and the dining room and they wheel her in and my heart almost falls

out she's not even 40 radiant woman and she's in a wheelchair she's paralyzed and she said to me rabbi Chrome thank you for coming I need a favor from you and I'm thinking no matter what she asked how long am I gonna say no in front of everybody here so she says I'm writing a book about my situation she says you know every day I get weaker and weaker and in many great rabbis who have come here to give me his oak to give me encouragement and I write it down but you who deserve Sehgal the Manchester Russia Shiva Rob revved it from Israel and I've read many secular sources also about having

strengths in difficult times please write me a letter for the book and I said you know you read somebody somebody took Sadiq to write a letter I can't write a letter for a book she says no please I listen to your CDs and I I know your books please it would mean so much so I figured okay how am I gonna say notes I said sir you know what Rebbetzin you know I can write a letter unless I read the book so when I get to New York you send me the book you know then I'll read it I figured over the phone 8,000 miles away I fella know she was one step ahead of me she said I printed it here it is and she

gives me the book she had printed it already typed it all out okay now I read it I started reading it on my way back to New York I couldn't stop crying I think the saddest part of that book is the day of her daughter's 8th day graduation all the women can relate to this the 8th they graduate with the 8th year of graduation it's such a special graduation and the women looks so nice and the daughters look so nice and everybody is so radiant and so happy and she says I came in with a wheelchair and my daughter standing next to me she's so embarrassed about me and I'm embarrassed for her because

she's embarrassed about me it's just awful you know we don't even take it granted we take it for granted that we can walk and talk and drive and run and sing it shop and do all these things that we get so upset they can be get upset think of Hobby watch shell in a wheelchair and at the graduation of our daughter it looked give you a different perspective what life is all about anyhow I keep reading the book and then I read one sentence and that sentence is a life-changing sentence the truth is that wherever I go even right now wherever I go I always carry these yellow highlighters because if

I ever read anything I always just underline it even though I'm going to throw it out I just underline it because it makes an impression on me my seed is underlined my camera is underlined mikromasch is underlined you see something that makes an impression on you underline it the next time you see it it'll awaken you again and when I read that sentence I highlighted it I checked it off and I called her and I said Rebbetzin let me tell you something this is not a book this is a safe fair this is a holy book are we honored and humbled if you allow me to write a letter and of course I wrote the

letter you know what this ends is listen to this it's not her sentence she got it from someplace else but it teaches us a great lesson in life she writes any fool can count the seeds in one Apple right you'd also be a big calm you go home tonight you open up the refrigerator to get an apple you count four or five seats but only the highest tower a Sherman knows two apples that are in one seed and that's brilliant who knows how many apples there are in one seed only Hashem you put your arm around somebody somebody's looking for a job and it's so embarrassed to come to shore and you put your

arm around them said listen to me I know what you're going through I that was me a couple years ago you're going to make it come to us for Shabbat a girl is looking for a and another woman comes over there says listen I know what you go through I went through the same thing don't worry you're going to get married visitor that sham you're going to build a family and you give the seed of encouragement or you make a call for somebody to get a job make a call for somebody to have a chador or you pray for somebody else and that person has healed all the apples that grow from those things that's

what we came here tonight the plant seeds the plant seeds of Torah to plant seeds of tequila to plant seeds of sensit and Oscar's that's what it's all about as the rabbi mentioned before at the beginning of the three weeks the culmination of the three weeks is tisha bras and the gimana tells us what is the reason that the second week of leaders was destroyed after our dance I said they didn't have that sinneth kingdom they didn't get along with each other and that's what we need the ABAQUS oil and what a beautiful message that we sent our Shem tonight that a whole community in the middle of

so many things going on in our lives we just dropped everything and we came here Coradin Abbas Aviva what a beautiful thing that alone is a great method that all of us have done tonight that we come here to help that family that family the mother sent a message that's why I walked out before she had sent a message with mrs. Cohen and she's begging everybody she doesn't want to lose her child she knows that we can make a difference we can make a difference with our Torah with our says said without what to feel ah let's do it for her let's do it for the child and let's do it for ourselves

because when we pray differently and we're unified will be different people I'll just end with this thing you'll never forget this my father all of us so um he told me this I don't know where he saw it maybe certain The Reader's Digest I don't know but he once said something so great he said the word United and the word untied are spelled with the exact same letters United and untied the only difference is where you put the I if you put the I in the right place then a community is united if you put the I the selfish I in the wrong place oh then it's untied tonight we put it in the right place

rabbi Bakshi and his family should be blessed to helping organize this wonderful quino's hashem should bless a dinner vas aviva with a refreshed lemma an assumption bless each and ever every one of us the greatest Baraka that you could ever give to anyone is that we should each fulfill our potential in Torah in which world interested and everything that the talents that a Shem gave us in life we should fulfill the potential and see only good thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening all English lecturers are available online at IDO group.com you